What is love or this thing we call love? Sex? Companionship? Emotions? Love is all these things and more. The saddest thing for us humans is most of us only experience love at its basest point-sex! Love is so much more complicated than that. I believe this is the cause of most divorces in our world, besides money.
When we say we no longer love someone did we ever love them in the first place? I do believe this to be true in most cases. Physical attraction is important, but it has to be deeper than that. You have to get past the emotions to discover who you are really connected with, the real person inside the shell we call the body. There is only one way to really understand what love is, it is a decision more than an emotion. Once you get your decision made, that is when you can start to bond yourself to your love.
As I get older I have gone from physical emotions to bonding of spirits, which creates a very real emotion that is very fulfilling. I need her presence with me on a daily basis and when she is apart from me I feel a void that only she can fulfill. We go through at least four stages or seasons of our lives, as babies, young children, adults, and then aged adults. I am in the fourth season of my life and she is also.
You can put yourself in love in all four stages of life if you just take the time to observe and follow through with your decision to know and really understand this magnificent person to whom you have chosen to love. Just put that thing between your ears to use and make the decision to become involved in a true love romance with your spouse as it will complete your physical life and hers.
Why do we as humans try to change someone else? Each person is unique and this is what makes up our personality. After all, that is what draws us close to them in the first place. If they want to change anything in their life they will do it. When we try to remake them in our image we will only condemn and discourage them. We can damage their self esteem if we interject our views of what makes them perfect in our eyes. Such arrogance on our part, as if we are God!
I am just as guilty as the next person. If we will allow them to be just themselves and not become so selfish in our narrow views of perfection, we will be amazed with their views of life with us. After all their personalities are what attracted us in the first place. Why be so selfish? Just be yourself, because everyone else is already taken. We only need one of each! Why would you want another you? After all you too are flawed, so let God mold each of us since His our creator.
I am serious because we can do great mental damage to anyone just by our words. Whoever wrote “sticks and stones may break my bones, but names or words will never hurt me,” lived alone or else had a very big shell of protection around them. Foolishness, because we all know that words can make or break us. The Bible tells us that our tongues which may be such a small member can set the world on fire. James 3: 5-12 tells us much about our tongues and the damage it can cause. Please read it and study it for your spiritual nourishment in your next quite time with the Lord.
We always have the choice to use it for good or bad. Sadly we often use it for destruction. Without reading the Bible on a daily basis we can never renew our minds so that we will only use words that will heal and lift up the other person to whom we are interacting with. Sometimes we learn that our mate is really an angel, and I have lived with one for the past thirty years, and hope to live with her for many more.
I am a Christian blogger and these words come from a long life of mistakes and learning. Sometimes I am a very slow learner. But I am improving daily. This blog is more of a ramble but it is what’s on my heart at this present time as I watch my sweetheart just laying on this hospital bed recovering. Please take the time daily to be the best Christian you can be and let God do the changing in both you and others.
I hope you are being encouraged by this letter as I go through this trial set before me. I only want each of you to be blessed and serious as you run your race in style and reach home safely and on time. Remember you will make it, just don’t give up. After seventy five years I am finally finding my pace for the endurance run set before me. I love you all and please remember your sister, my wife in your prayers. See you next week.
In His Service as Kilted Priest
The Kilted Priest 